Mom could be half way to that higher world, like someone having a mystical experience or an NDE. The difference is that her altered state began gradually, and never stops.
Heaven and hell do not resonate with me. I much prefer an afterlife that allows all souls to learn, grow, and reach their spiritual potential. But that doesn't require me—or you—to tolerate mean people.
When you’re flying up a tunnel toward the iridescent Soul of the Universe, you had better not be driving the after-school carpool! So what purpose do these things serve?